Firstly, I dont know how to feel about this.
I am married, just like her. I had a long-term relationship with my then boyfriend before getting married, just like her. I am in love, undeniably, hopelessly, head over heels in love, just like her. I found my soulmate, just like her, or so she thought?
How can one hurt another human being, supposedly someone who you have vowed to love, take care and protect unconditionally in front of God, in front of her parents? She's your wife. WIFE. Your partner in life, half of your deen. The one who will sacrifice everything, leaving her parents, her life, just to start a new one with you.
I don't understand cheaters. Are you not physically, emotionally capable to hold out on your desires? Is what you have right now so horrible that you just need a taste of something new? I've heard from cheaters that its not about it being new, its about it being different. So...what you're telling me is, you love, cherish and adore what you have but you just need something different for the night? Which comes around to the point of you not capable to keep in your pants isnt it?
Don't get me wrong, women cheat too. Like not just emotionally, they physically cheat too. Having another man's dick in their vagina, fucking them slowly and then picking up speed. Crude aren't I? Can't handle it can you? So why is it okay, maybe not okay but acceptable enough in the society, that a man cheats? Oh, he's a man. He'll come around. You just need to forgive him and the both of you can move on from this episode. BULLSHIT!
Once the relationship is tarnished, theres no going back to the way things were. You think at the back of her mind, shes not subconsciously waiting for you to cheat again, for you to slip up? If no, then you're delusional my friend.
Back to the original point of this entry, I saw so many hateful comments from righteous people, merely strangers really to her, how she is such a horrible wife. How dare she air her husband's dirty laundry to the public. Then what about her husband? Isnt he the one airing it out in the open in the first place when pictures of him and the said mistress are posted online? In the first place, if he hadnt cheated, there would not be any dirty laundry to be aired.
Then again, as a muslim, Im not condoning her act. Sure I understand, she was probably so heartbroken and in pain and she just needed to vent out her frustrations. Maybe her outlet is to write in her instagram, its somewhat like a blog too isnt it? No matter what, you need to protect your marriage, there shouldnt be any comments or input from parties who are not the both of you. The basic fundamental of a marriage, husband and wife. There were many times that I just needed to blog on how my husband has hurt me, most times it wasnt out of spite or vengence. He simple wasnt aware, my darling, sometimes ditzy-legally-blond husband. But I never actually blogged about it. Cause I love him, and I know it will pass. Sure, none of his remarks or behaviour even comes close to what her husband has done; cheating.
And the other woman, shes actually just a little schoolgirl actually. What the hell is your problem going out with a married man? Did your parents not teach you not to play with people's toys? It's pretty simple, other people's things, you dont touch, it does not belong to you. Dont be cheeky with other woman's husband, dont crave their attention. If you feel like they are getting too carried away, them being incorrigible pompous asses, you walk away. As a woman, have enough respect and dignity to walk away from a married man. Hes not for you. Think of the woman you are hurting if you lead him on or encourage his advances. Do you want her to hurt? Do you really think theres a future for the both of you? That hes not gonna cheat on you the way he cheated on his wife? Sure he wont, cause you're that special. Hah, bitch please. Dream on!
Whatever it is, I wish the both of them, the husband and wife, not the little schoolgirl, all the best. May they get through this hurdle. It doesnt always have to end with divorce. How to get through this, I dont know.
I knew of this couple who just got a divorce cause he cheated. Not a one time thing, he actually has a girlfriend while being married. What drove him to having an affair? His wife was lazy and she keeps on bad mouthing his family, his Mom. Says a whole of of shit about his Mom. Babe, seriously? Mothers are like this magical unicorn that children look up to, they are the untouchables. Once you cross the line of insulting someone's Mom, theres no turning back. In this case, his patience ran thin. But he had a responsibility towards her. She was the amanah entrusted by God. He couldnt just let her go. So he stayed.......and strayed. But of cause, the only mistake that is visible to the eye is that he cheated. So ultimately, that was the cause of the divorce.
Anyway, if cheating ever happens to me, I'll have his balls on a silver platter, get my brothers to do a number on him and then tell his Mom what he did. Husband is actually most scared of the last one lol.
I'll end it with, cheating is not just about having sex with another person. If you gotta hide it from your partner, its considered cheating already. Think about it.
Peace and all the love in the world.
//edit
I saw on Facebook a screenshot of his side of the story that he posted on Instagram. Apparently, shes a materialistic bitch who has gotten it easy all her life. Hes angry cause his little girlfriend is getting threats in school (why are you even going out with a girl who is still in ITE la bro?) and he blames her family for forcing them to marry. Yeap, cause in all the 8 years together, you didnt have the balls to end it with her before getting married. Sure, she drove you to having an affair. But bro, you cheated. And you're not even apologetic. Adoiiiiiiiii.
Scratch that, I think unrepentant cheaters deserves their own special place in hell.
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